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Are you spending a long time making a simple decision? Did you regret what you have decided? Are you feeling unfulfilled even you reached the goal that you set? If yes, it is worthwhile for you to spend 3–5mins in this article to discover your life VALUES.

Life is build up by moments of evaluations and decisions. Sometimes, we could be spending a lot of time thinking and rethinking the same thing repeatedly but still unable to decide. …

I started the book “Stretch” by Scott Sonenshein this week, and I found the first chapter quite relevant to me — The Chasing Mindset.

Scott highlighted that the psychological foundations of chasing mindset mainly come from one of the 4 factors:

  1. Social Comparisons — drive us constantly to want what others have and underappreciate the value of what we already have
  2. Functional Fixedness — a fixated perspective that prevents us from viewing existing resources as capable of more
  3. Mindless Accumulation — to rack up as many resources as possible, not because we have a specific goal in mind but rather…

  • The Dreamer is the idea generator. Dare to have a big and creative dream or vision
  • The Realist is the implementer. Focus on how to implement the idea best
  • The Critic is the evaluator. Focus the pros and cons, and sometimes he is the one more negative and conservative among the three.

All of us have a bit of the three and dominant character in one or two. As I understand better of these three characters, I learnt that I am more of a Realist. Most of the time, I focus on the HOW question; Usually focus on the feasibility…

If I could take one key takeaway out of the Brene Brown — Dare to lead book — it will be Living into Our Values.

Living into our values means that we do more than profess our values, we practice them. We walk our talk — we are clear about what we believe and hold important, and we take care that our intentions, words, thoughts, and behaviours align with those beliefs.

To live into your value, you need to have the courage to choose stand on your value against comfort; Never silent about hard things. …

“I grew up by believing feeling is a weakness. The inner-voice of “Suck it up” and “Push it through” was how I was telling myself or sometimes to the closed one when things happened.” — The WIP Jason

When I was a child, literacy refers to being able to read and write at a certain level of proficiency. It includes being able to recognise, interpret and create letters, words and sentences appropriate to age. I refer as “technical literacy” that enables me to have a basic grasp of ‘the rules’ of written, verbal and visual language.

One of the unexplored…

Vulnerability is, ‘Here I am — my frayed edges, my secrets, my fears, my affection. Be careful — they’re precious.’

I almost can think of what I am worrying when we talk about being vulnerable:

  • Criticism
  • Shame
  • Rejection
  • Failure
  • Uncertainty

I am afraid to try or open up because it will allow others to have an opportunity to criticize me, to laugh at me, and to reject me.

The common behaviours that show I am protecting my vulnerability are:

  • Choose not to speak up in front of others if I am not sure
  • Choose to avoid difficult conversation when it…

The feeling that holding us back to engage with what we want fully is “Vulnerability”.

When we talk about vulnerability, our mind often associates with exposed, uncertainty, danger, emotional, weakness, etc. etc. Our mind is good at protecting us from entering into the uncomfortable zone. Hence, it will create a behaviour of protecting us from being vulnerable.

Common behaviours that prevent us from being vulnerable are disengaged, pushing and provoking with criticism or respond with anger. …

“The human tendency is to prepare for disasters, which leads us to focus on negative events or feelings of worry and anxiety” –We tend to focus what is our weaknesses and spend time to fix it instead of strengthening our strengths.

I learnt that when we focus on developing our strengths, we grow faster than when trying to improve our weaknesses. A strengths-based approach is part of the positive psychology introduced by Martin Seligman, who said that the people who use their strengths are happier, less stressed, and more confident (i.e. positive emotion). Many studies have shown that positive emotions…

Most of us are practising listening since the day we were born. There are tons of information come to us either by visual, verbal or a combination of both daily. We are learning by looking and listening to this information. Listening — we knew how to do that, and we are actively using this gifted skill since we were born. It sounds so simple, right? Yet, today a lot of conflicts, relationship breakdown, misunderstanding are all due to failing in listening.

Personally, these happen to me on my daily interaction with people:

  • Not fully presence during listening: I always thought…

The purpose of communication is to seek clarity. All of us have our own perspectives and that is the reason we need to communicate to align.

Conflict is inevitable when two or more people are talking about things from their own perspectives, and that's where arguments come into the picture.

More often than not we believe in our point of view and sometimes we assume another party point of view. Hence, we will try to “win” the conversation by changing other minds by persuasion, bribery, threats, and other tools of force.

That’s where the conversation got heated and become unproductive.


Believe in Clarity Is Power— Be clear with your needs and drives, choose to live up to your potential, and get to write the ending.

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